A new phase and a new blog

Hello everyone,

Priceless Junk was created when I was a high school student back home in Bangalore. This blog has always been very close to my heart albeit its ups and downs over the course of many years. I originally fell in love with blogging because it provided me an opportunity to open up myself (and my life) to a tiny part of this world. Turning over a new leaf is my attempt to get back to the roots with a fresh start. I have been wanting to write about science and education (among other things) for a long time now and I don’t think Priceless Junk is the right platform to do that anymore. The last year has changed me to a huge extent and I just can’t relate to this persona any longer. I enjoyed my time here as an ambivert, confused high school and college student who was trying to figure herself out. The past year has given me a great deal of exposure, perspective, confidence and determination to renew my attitude towards life.

Priceless Junk encompasses one phase of me and now it’s time to move on to the next. I no longer feel the need to bury this space under the deep dark corners of the web. I am truly grateful that I had the chance to share my thoughts with you all. I have known some of you longer than I’ve known my friends, and it delights me to witness all of us moving ahead in all directions to achieve greater things!

This is definitely not a goodbye and I hope we can keep in touch through my new blog or my twitter account, where I chatter a lot.

Priya

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It has been a month since I started a new chapter of my life as a graduate student in a foreign land. What may I tell you about it? I have been meaning to put my experiences into words for the blog but it seems so hard to write now. Please help me get back to this hobby that I once loved dearly. I’d very much like to contain my memories in this tiny part of the blogosphere. Let’s see where this takes me.

Phase 3

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This part of my life is called Phase 3. After school and college, it’s now time for university. Time to get real. Time to put the “i” in individualism.

Life Update

The other day, someone asked me why I’d stopped blogging. I am getting old and conscious of revealing my life openly on the web, that’s why. Seeing an old post of mine being shared on facebook was so embarrassing. I had to edit half of the text and correct a few lines to make it seem decent enough for the people who were going to stumble upon it. When I started blogging many years ago, I used to do it for me – simply to record random (un)interesting occurrences in my life. Anyway, because I don’t talk about myself a lot on here these days and maybe you guys want to know what’s going on with me (maybe not? oh well), here it is.

I have a week left in Bangalore before I take-off to Indiana and survive all by myself. It took me long time to realize what all of this really meant. I am finally flying away from my protective humble abode to go out there and create myself. It is scary and exciting at the same time. I am currently packing away my life into suitcases. I wish I could take with me everything that I have here, but I can’t. Life from now is going to be hard and painful. This has also made me realize how I took everything for granted here. Learning to take care of things that belong to me, show responsibility and gratitude is what I have to learn first.

Series of illustrations that unites the human anatomy with nature. These are just a couple of ideas. I hope someone somewhere comes up with a better, more artistic version of these. I’d love to see something like that.

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What’s my forte?

Have you ever felt like you are so confused with yourself that you need to catch hold of every opportunity that comes your way and experiment with different things simultaneously? This is exactly my life at the moment. The problem with me is I get into a lot of things, with enthusiasm at first and eagerness to know what the outcome is going to be. I’m not complaining. Some of the best things that have happened to me so far have been a result of this random experimentation.

When I walked into the college gates on the first day, I was a confident person and was pretty clear about the decisions that I’d made in the past couple of months that year. Now, after four years, I find myself lost again, unsure of which path to take. I’ve met people who’ve always been focussed about what they expect from life. People who can see themselves working at a specific company or studying at a particular university five years down the line. I’ve grown up with such people from high school. Sometimes I feel all the freedom that I’ve received, like the freedom to choose whichever field to pursue, etc, has left me spoilt for choices. Maybe the best thing to do right now is to not over-think things and just dive into an uncertain future. An exciting future filled with infinite number of possibilities!

Prayer

I recently got acquainted with this girl for my project work. She is sweet, polite and some-what oblivious to many new things (like technology, etc). At the same time, she is very street smart. A thing about her that caught my attention the most was that she prays before every meal that she has. We’ve been having lunch together everyday, and before she digs in, she takes a minute to close her eyes and pray to her god – Jesus. Today, I asked her what she says in her prayer. She said she thanks Jesus for the food, asks him to take care of her family and friends, asks him to help the poor, and thanks him for everything in general.

I felt very uneasy at that moment not knowing how to react and just smiled. I would generally think like this – thank my dad for his job for that provides money to my family (and thus becomes the source of my lunch money), humans take care of other humans (so I should take care of my parents and vice versa) and accept the reality of the world (poverty, hunger, draught, inflation, etc). But then, I got thinking – she is smart and well educated to be aware of the world. Why would she feel the need to escape? How could she actually believe that Jesus had only 23 chromosomes (she really told me this!) especially having studied biology in such depth? The answer is – religion is not as feeble as we think it is. Sometimes, people have the need to rely on something -or someone- to convince themselves that hope and faith can be powerful. They are not delusional. They are aware and wide awake. If praying gives them strength, so be it. If religion lessens their burdens, so be it.

I have never been a very religious person (except when I think praying to ‘god’ is the last resort to make something really happen). I don’t get the idea of having to pray to some supernatural being for the food we consume or the clothes we wear. I guess I’m just grateful for my folks for having the luxuries that I have. I am not against any religious people or their beliefs, I just don’t agree with them. We did have such prayers in school in the mornings and before lunch breaks. Everybody just lets go of such things once they move on in life. But I have a sense of respect and appreciation for those who stick on to it. It takes a lot to be regularly dedicated to something, let alone your religion. Even if it’s something that’s as simple as praying.

The tradition of praying in the mornings and before meals exists in many families even today. I think it teaches people to respect things and other beings. It teaches them to have compassion and appreciate the things they have in life. I have reality checks about these things too, but never through religion. I may never follow it, but seeing someone else humbly follow it doesn’t disturb me. Everyone has different ways to cope with the world.

Project

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Spinach and Soya plants that we’re growing as a part of our final year project work.

I never knew growing plants was such a hard thing to do. At first, we had to get the right sized pots, appropriate soil along with organic manure, and seeds (everything that we bought from the fantabulous nursery at Lalbagh). We’re presently taking care of 36 pots(!) and need to monitor the growth of these seedlings everyday. I didn’t know that I could be a good “plant person” either. Every time my mom asked me to water the plants and trees at home, I ignored. But now, I volunteer to do it even before I’m asked to help. Anyway, this has been really cool and a lot of fun so far. Moreover, I get to take pictures of them too, so wohoo.

Another thing about this work is that the person whom I’m working with is really different from me and the kind of people usually in my friends circle. This has given me an opportunity to explore the dynamics of a different kind of relationship. This is something that I need to experience and learn from.

Final Semester

I attended the first day of the final semester of college today. After many days of sleeping past 9 am, I was inspired to wake up early and have the same zeal in me that I had while attending the first day of college. I sat alone for a while, deserted in a huge chaotic classroom, and pretended to be busy on my phone. In reality, I was thinking about the way things turned out in the past four years. It is true what people say about college. They are the best and also the worst years of our lives. Four years ago, I was quite clear about my goals and the direction I was moving in. Today, I feel like I’ve been left to wander off in the middle of an enormous desert.

When I think about all that I’ve achieved and all that I haven’t, I don’t majorly regret any phase that I’ve been through or any decision that I’ve taken. Sometimes I feel that I should’ve done some things differently, but I don’t regret them either because I was fully aware of everything that I was involved in at the moment.

Anyway, in the last couple of months here, I hope to make the most of the time that I’ve got. For the first time, I feel like Time is on my side. Even if for a short period.

10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Teenage Self

When I turned 20 last year, someone commented on twitter saying that I could now use the phrase “during my time..” in conversations. Being officially on the ‘other side’ for more than a year, I don’t quite remember my teenage years as well as I thought I would. Surprisingly, for me, the times filled with sadness and depression are more clear in my mind than the happy times.

I cannot label my teenage self. I guess I was a little bit of everything. I was very average, normal and somehow just ‘fit-in’. If I had a chance to go back in time and fix things – like broken friendships – I probably would. But sadly, I can’t. I’ve gotten past the stage to even feel miserable about these things now. One major advice I would have given my teenage self was to be confident of who I was. As a young girl, I wasn’t very outstanding and confident. I admired other girls who were “out there” – grabbing opportunities and achieving things. I was always the second option at most of these things. A replacement for another artist at representing my school at a painting competition. I was a good artist – but not the best. I never got selected for any major event – I desperately wanted to be a part of the MUN and debate team. Sadly the teachers thought I wasn’t worthy of this. School was sometimes very demeaning for me. Anyway, all this changed in college and I can’t be more happy about it. The thing is, in college, we get to take decisions for ourselves, teachers don’t.

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1. Be confident about who you are. You are no less or greater than anyone else. Don’t be afraid to present yourself to others. Be proud of your accomplishments, however small or insignificant they seem to be. They are going to boost your confidence for bigger things in life later on. There is absolutely no use in comparing yourself to your peers.

2. Don’t be afraid to fall in love. Accept love as any other human feeling and be okay with it. Love isn’t a magical fantasied experience as how Disney shows it to be. It is beautiful and great, yes, but don’t exaggerate the boundaries of the feeling.

3. Talk to your parents more often. Get to know them. Be open and honest with them. The bond that you form now will determine the one that you have in the future. Make it easier at this age, so that it doesn’t have to be awkward and odd later in life.

4. Build your stamina, exercise regularly, take care of your body. Make it a practice. We tend to realize the importance of being healthy only later in life. It’s not really about having a good physique. It’s about being healthy and active. Learn what’s good for your body and how you react to different situations.

5. Hang on to close friends. True friendship is hard to find and it takes efforts from both sides. Have friends who like you for who you are. That being said, know that it is okay to drift apart… What matters is that you both acknowledge your friendship even after many years. They are truly your friends.

6. You can be anyone you want to be. It may seem like you have very limited options in front of you for your future. But really, there are going to be many many more options ahead of you. Choose wisely.

7. Talk to more people, all kinds of people. Make connections. Build bonds. Every person has something to offer that you can learn from. This is going to open your mind to many new possibilities. Know their stories, it will help you in creating your own. You will learn more from other people than from books and lectures. Have your own opinions in conversations. Have plenty conversations.

8. Do the things that you love more often. Interests may change frequently, but stick to one thing and excel at it. It may take you a lifetime, and that’s okay.

9. Be Proactive. I cannot stress upon this more. Take decisions – even if they fail – and make things happen by yourself. Learning to be independent and responsible is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

10. Don’t worry, just be happy! Things may seem confusing and bitter now. It won’t get any better later (sometimes it may), so learn to cherish what you have and just enjoy the days! :)

You can’t play on broken strings

I’ve always wanted to learn a musical instrument. When in 9′th grade, I joined a music school and signed up for guitar lessons. My instructor, Julius, was a very cool man. He didn’t believe in conventional teaching. Being self taught himself, he introduced me to some simple beginners’ chords and tabs. Starting with easy 3 chord rhymes, I advanced to the next level songs and learnt to play their solos. He emphasized a lot on solo to make my way through the frets more easy. It wasn’t really the ‘phoebe-way‘ of guitar learning, but it was all about enjoying what we played. We would sit in a circle and he would start off with a simple chord progression and we would follow him, which would eventually lead to a song. The entire room would vibrate with the strumming and singing!

I would come home from school and catch a bus to the class on every alternate weekdays. My guitar was (is) a classic acoustic instrument, which Julius picked out for me himself. He always said I have to use my long fingers to my advantage and play till they hurt (bleeding fingers is a sign of progress). After the class, a couple of students would stay back and discuss concerts, artists and their heroes. I too would sometimes stay back and listen to them in awe. Each one of them would speak so passionately about music and I then realized how the smallest of the things inspired them to pick up a guitar.

I continued for 2 years and enjoyed every bit of it. I would come home late sometimes which wasn’t quite appealing to my folks. I travelled by bus then, with a guitar hung on my back making my way through the crowd. I would leave by 5 and return only by 9, sometimes really exhausted. This left me no time to do anything for school the next day and to an extent, also affected my lifestyle. All this obviously ticked off my mom a bit and I eventually had to give it up when I entered the 12th grade. I promised myself that I would resume immediately once my exams ended but that never happened as then came more entrance exams. JEE, AIEEE, CET, AIMPT, everything took a toll on me and the guitar stayed on the attic, comfortable in it’s casing. (This was the time when I had taken to photography as an alternate hobby and continued it to make up for the loss of another hobby).

My first year of engineering was what one can say “light”. Being a CBSE student and having undergone a hell load of stress and studying, the engineering internals didn’t seem that pressurizing in the first semester. How I got interested in a Carnatic classical instrument is a strange story. Rolling back to many years, like in every other Hindu brahmin family tradition, I too was made to learn singing at a young age. Singing wasn’t really my thing, I just completed the basic course for the heck of it and then quit happily. No more was I made to sing in family gatherings and in the functions at my locality.

The Veena is a fascinating instrument. One night, my mother was watching a Carnatic musical program on television and I happened to not argue and watch it with her. 2 men were sitting on the floor, playing the veena so effortlessly. It seemed so easy, but I knew it wasn’t. Firstly, they were playing continuously for more than a hour and their left hands moved from one end of the fretboard to the other, with the support resting on their laps. It was the first time I noticed that the fretboard tapered into a dragon’s head! How amusing! It was all very grand and unique. More over, Carnatic tunes never sounded more powerful to me before. I made a passing comment about how cool it would be if I could learn the Veena. My mother immediately agreed that I should! (Better learn a carnatic instrument and become a good Hindu woman instead of the late night guitar strumming hippie, yeah?)

I took my dad along to Guruji’s house, to talk about joining Veena classes. He spoke to me directly, “Why do you want to learn the Veena?”. I wasn’t expecting that at all. “I like the sound it makes and want to be able to play it myself”, I said sounding silly and regretting it later. He was a relatively young man, with the tilak running across his forehead, dressed in lungi and kurta. His mother was a renowned veena player and he was blessed with the same gift. Although he worked in the IT industry for many years, he never gave up on his passion for Veena during the time. Later, he quit his IT job completely for promoting the Carnatic music fraternity and pursuing his mother’s dreams. I liked the story and was impressed. My first class was interesting. There were rules. Rules that every student had to follow to learn from Guruji. No jeans and tops, only Indian salwar kameez or saaris. A bindi on the forehead was a must (sometimes I forgot in a hurry and had to quickly apply kumkum before beginning with the lessons). Pray to the veena for 2 minutes before keeping her on my lap. My legs pained for hours, my fingers hurt even more. The sounds thundered in the room with others when we played. The vibrations lingered in my head for many hours after the class.

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I picked up the lessons faster than others due to my history with the strings. “In one year, you should be able to play a simple devarnama in our music school’s anual day”, he said. Unlike Julius, Guruji played by the rules and taught me every note and tune from the scripts and made me memorize names, numbers and progressions. I knew I was going good for a year and would play well past all the rules and other difficulties. I was suddenly pressurized into having to learn more in less time and prepare myself for the annual day. Expectations grew and playing the veena was no more an enjoyment. Every time I placed the Veena on my lap, I thought about what I had to memorize and forced myself to play. She still sounded wonderful and echoed in my room, but other thoughts overshadowed her sounds in my mind. Guruji preached Hinduism and our culture along with the music lessons. I sat there blatantly listening to his words, pretending to follow it, while in reality, I would go home and put on some Dream Theatre or Opeth on full volume to get over it. The joy of learning to play a grand musical instrument had turned into a burden of having to satisfy expectations and pass tests. Moreover, I was made to believe in things which I didn’t want to believe in. Knowing them is one thing, but forcing myself into agreeing to them is an entirely different thing. Guruji imposed a strict learning atmosphere that didn’t have space for any mistakes. Only his ideologies were correct in his class, and people had to agree upon them if they wanted to learn to play the Veena from him.

After my first year of engineering (and first year of Veena classes), I told him that I had taken up a small internship during my vacations and would help a company in social media marketing, etc. He blamed me for wasting my free time doing unnecessary things when instead, I could’ve easily learnt a lot more of music and perform in front of a large audience within months. I could practice for the whole day and improve very soon. Practice practice practice, perform perform perform! I didn’t have to guts to tell him openly that I had wanted to learn to play the Veena purely for MYSELF and didn’t really care about performing or showing others. I wanted to take it slow and actually ENJOY it. I started missing classes and over the course of time, I told him that the engineering load is getting on to me, with project work happening after class hours and internals coming up soon. I had to quit unexpectedly. I owed Guruji an explanation. I knew that he only meant good for me, but I was so scared of him.

The Veena still attracts me, and I sometimes feel I should probably get back to her again and learn by myself from scratch (the load of notes and books can easily help me get back on my own). I am not sure though, maybe listening is at one place and learning to play is in another place altogether. As far as the guitar goes, I took her out of the attic yesterday. One of these days, I plan to replace her broken strings with new ones and start learning by myself again. Maybe my time with stringed instruments isn’t done yet.

Making Pav Bhaji

Ingredients: Carrots, Beans, Cauliflower, Potatoes, Tomatoes, Onions, Peas, Garlic paste, Ghee or oil, Pav Bhaji masala, Garam masala, Chili powder, Salt, Butter, Coriander, Chili and Lemon.

Tomato puree, Onions, Coriander, Chili and Lemon

Method:

  • Chop all vegetables and add them to a microwave safe bowl with half a cup of water and microwave (covered) at 100% power for 10 mins.
  • Allow to stand for 5 mins and blend them in a blender. Keep aside.
  • Prepare tomato puree by blending tomato pieces in a blender.
  • Add ghee or oil, garlic paste, salt, all masalas & chili powder to the puree, and microwave at 100% power for 4 mins.
  • Mix the blended vegetables to it and microwave (covered) at 80% power for 3-4 minutes.
  • Slit the pav in between and spread butter on both sides. Place them on a tissue paper and microwave at 50% for 3 mins.
  • Garnish the bhaji with peas, onion rings, coriander and chilis. Squeeze lemon. Serve hot!

Ready to eat!

Note: This is an amateur recipe. I made it for the first time and it turned out to be good.